Toxic Masculinity - Men's Social?

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Skip
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Hi
I am interested in some more metro style blokes socialising meaning I don't want to go running or playing basketball or drink to excess. I just want to chill and chat. Any other Dudes mid 20's - 30's open for a modern day Buddy without the toxic masculinity ? :lol:
Skip
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Skip wrote: 13 Dec 2019, 18:58 without the toxic masculinity ? :lol:
By that I just mean that you're being held to a stereotype , fancy a pint ... NO, I don't so you have one but to me it smells like .... ???

I'll take guesses on the that question HINT it fits perfectly with pint being 4 letters and starting with the same!
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Sorry, could you repeat that?
Skip
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I think I was quite expressive, no?

Toxic refers to when men act like Donald Trump old fashioned caricature stereotypes etc. It's kind of oppressive and one take outlook.

Do you not agree?
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I believe Donald Trump doesn't drink? And I can't imagine him taking part in those well know toxic activities 'running' and 'basketball'.

Personally, I like Motorbikes and Whiskey, so I am not the droid you're looking for. I'm out.
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Donald Trump may not drink but he sure likes fast food, sure I love heart stopping food too. I don't have a problem with people liking basketball or running ... it's just not for me. I was only saying that it's not for me. The previous reply wanted me to explain ... so I do have a problem with Trump but it's his nastiness and outlandish defiant persona.

BTW, why imply that I'm a droid ? I just posted a genuine harmless topic looking to chill out with folks. Nothing wrong with you liking your whiskey, and nothing wrong with someone different that's all. We all know some men hold other men to certain old fashioned ideals that they just ain't feeling
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Skip wrote: 16 Dec 2019, 14:49 BTW, why imply that I'm a droid ?
I didn't.
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Sorry I read it as you weren't a droid like me or whatever - okay then my misunderstanding.
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Keep this going please.
Its brilliant .
Skip
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pat mustard wrote: 16 Dec 2019, 15:21 Keep this going please.
Its brilliant .
what?!
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I agree, I've never been around much toxic masculinity. So it's ever so enlightening. I see quite a bit of entitled individuals from both sexes on a regular basis, but not any "toxic" men. Ah maybe I'm just getting old :shock:
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Toxic Masculinity doesn't refer to plain old masculinity. It's like trying to get everyone to be the hard man, or feeling superior to people that don't do the same. There is a lot of talk about it in recent years as it can make some guys feel like they need to conform and change and it stops them being real or too open when they are struggling.

They then get worse like a vicious circle as they can't get the support they actually wish they had, and things escalate.
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Hi Skip

Nice post. Sounds good. I’m a bit the same, looking for an activity that’s not sports or alcohol based.

BTW I wasn’t surprised by the response of some. When you question the status quo some will quickly put you in your place.

Any ideas of activities or events?
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Skip wrote: 13 Dec 2019, 18:58 Hi
I am interested in some more metro style blokes socialising meaning I don't want to go running or playing basketball or drink to excess. I just want to chill and chat. Any other Dudes mid 20's - 30's open for a modern day Buddy without the toxic masculinity ? :lol:
Nice idea skip. Have you looked at the men's shed organisation? There is one in Donabate
Donabate Scouts Den, Donabate, Portrane Road, Co. Dublin. Primary Contact: Peter Farrell, 089 457 9702
Scotty
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Wow, you're not judgemental about people's diets, politics or old fashioned views at all, are you?
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Thanks for the comments above. BTW Scotty I am not judgemental of other people's diets. I suggest you re-read my comment as I love tasty food.

You want to know if I disapprove of other people's JUDGEMENTAL views ... yes of course. He is a racist moron. He is all sorts of bigoted. You have to be joking - if someone's view is to look down or hate on someone because of old fashioned archaic beliefs then we would say never mind they are just mature lol. You think the older people can mock anyone like they are sometimes portrayed in the movies from another era ???

Google toxic masculinity instead of having a go at me ... I didn't just make it up. You think chauvinism or racism was just made up too ?

Thanks Peter, the Men's Shed but I've researched that a few times but it seems to be either for OLDER guys near or at retirement, or those who can relate to them through something technical like woodwork or metalwork etc. I would struggle there as I'm not into things like that or sports. I'm not on facebook or twitter etc so I couldn't teach them something like that either.
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Quello Serio wrote: 16 Dec 2019, 14:56
Skip wrote: 16 Dec 2019, 14:49 BTW, why imply that I'm a droid ?
I didn't.
Quelle Serio was quoting Star Wars A New Hope. Nice!
Skip
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Oh I haven't watched Star Wars! All I know is Darth Vader like everyone has heard of ET!
Scotty
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Maybe it's not the rest of the world that's wrong! You give the term snowflake, true meaning.
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Seems you're the one taking offence to the slightest thing - isn't that what a snowflake is ? You're clumsily trying to dismiss me while having a go at the same time. You don't like my view but I was quite clear and went into plenty of detail. You are offended that I don't like people being offended about other people's lives if it has nothing to do with them. I think you should just back off as you're coming across like a teenage bully using social media to mock me.
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How's the friend recruitment drive, going then? Your posts must have people flocking to you!
And i stand by my original statement of " snowflake",
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At least I explained my point, all you could do was call people names. I see your question has a question mark so it's not rhetorical ... worry about your own life and as for your hobby of being a troll that's not inspiring at Xmas or heading into 2020.
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Meanwhile, in a country near you ....

https://www.unicef.ie/donate/donate-syria/#1
Skip
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Changing topic as a means to diminish the subject. The subject is not superficial or something made up so there was no need. There is someone worse off somewhere is your point, therefore I assume you never talk about anything except state business, the economy and charity?

By your logic it's okay to be backward and let's not talk about it as long as nobody gets hit over the head all's well.
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Do you ever stop playing the "offended" card?
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